Hi all, Natalie again. I’ve missed you guys! Let me tell you where I’ve been. My son, Tanner, is on his third cold in the last couple of months, two rounds of antibiotics (that didn’t do a dang thing) and hardly any sleep is making for a tired momma! With that chaos, my older son, Jackson, still has his normal schedule of school and hockey practice two days a week.
The other night, my husband and I sat with two crying children, a dog that was attempting to eat a bag of gummy worms from our counter and successfully chewed an air compressor hose (I can’t even make this stuff up), I had about seven various laundry piles in different places of the house and we looked at each other with a sense of survival mode and exhaustion.
“We need a date night!” My husband was right, but our normal choices for babysitters include busy family members. With holidays coming, I know that our time alone will be very limited. However, I can’t stress enough how important these breaks are. I told him I am done doing just dinner and running errands on our nights alone which are so very rare and precious. It got me thinking.
*Originally posted December 2014
Fun Date Nights!
What are some awesome alternatives to boring date nights and movie/dinner dates?
Once in a while they can be cozy and relaxing, but after your fourth date at the movies it gets a little…boring.
I’ve compiled ten date ideas that aren’t typical, and they get you talking, interacting and CONNECTING.
Cooking class: It doesn’t need to be an ongoing commitment, because don’t we already have enough of those?! In Denver, I found Cook Street School of Culinary Arts. They offer date night classes that not only teach you how to cook a tasty dish but they also give you the wine pairing to go with it! Don’t like the date night menus? They offer one night classes that explore several different types of foods from around the world! Not local? Just do an internet search of date night cooking classes in your area.
Take a dance class: I know, I can see my husband’s eyes glazing over, too. But choose a fun style of dance and get silly with it. He knows I won’t be on Dancing with the Stars anytime soon and I’m pretty sure he’s no John Travolta. Get moving and grooving while having fun doing something new together!
Indoor rock climbing: Mostly because I’m neither talented nor athletic enough to attempt real rock climbing. Indoor rock climbing seems to be everywhere now. They offer equipment rentals as well as an option of an instructor. This is a good variation of that “trust fall” exercise.
Sporting Events: I’ll be honest that I do not know a single rule of any sport other than hockey. My husband however knows enough that he could possibly hold a secret Bachelor’s Degree in the rules, teams and scores of any sport. Try Flashseats.com to get some local tickets for a great deal.
Tackle a home project: When we bought our first home, the previous owners left it with lots of dirt, work and things needing to be replaced. One of my favorite memories of this last year here was when Jackson went with my sister and brother in law to dinner and a hockey game while Jonathon and I primed what would become Tanner’s room. We bought a pizza, and listened to some music while we transformed that space.
Tour a brewery: I actually really like seeing how things are made. Breweries have opened their doors to tours making it possible to see the entire behind the scenes process. It usually includes samples and possibly an option to buy lunch on site. Not a beer fan? Tour a local food business of any kind! I find them all interesting…especially the samples. 😉
Painting and wine: This is totally a thing! I am absolutely horrible at art, but from what it I’m hearing, even I could do this. They provide all of the materials you’ll need for your masterpiece as well as a drink menu. This gets your creative side out while you make something that you get to take home!
Buy a 20 questions game: I would LOVE to sit with my husband and just talk and reconnect. A fun way to do this is to play a game that asks ridiculous questions. The answers are fun, sometimes unexpected and things I’d never come up with on my own. The best part? You can sit in your pajamas and cuddle while doing this!
Don’t have a sitter? Put the kids to bed and carve out an hour just hanging out. Trade foot rubs and spill your guts on anything that is weighing on your heart or tell a funny story that happened. This is as good as any expensive date.
Have the best sitter ever? For us, this option is only good if my mom and dad step in. Take a weekend alone! Whether you have a stay-cation at your house totally kid free, or you book a trip to Hawaii – or somewhere in between those two, knowing your kids are safe yet you don’t have to return to them before bedtime makes a huge difference! I would love to explore different cities and experience what they have to offer. Not every vacation has to be exotic and pricey. Just going a few hours away can be fun! Another exciting option? Plan the babysitter, set a budget and book something on a last minute travel deal!
Want to make a dating commitment as a gift to your spouse?
- Plan out dates and write them down and place each date idea (some that cost money, some that are free and some that take you farther away if possible) in envelopes.
- It’s ideal to also place the amount of money you’ll need (no need to go crazy) in the envelope.
- It’s pre-planned, paid for and you can make that engagement with your spouse each month.
- Then each month, open each envelope together and see what you’ll be doing! It’s something to look forward to!
Whether you choose any of these ideas, or create one yourself, I hope you truly find time to put your marriage first again. Healthy marriages make healthy kiddos and healthy individuals! It’s SO hard to pry ourselves away but it’s necessary every once in a while. So have some guilt free fun every now and again to recharge your batteries and then jump back into this crazy amazing chaos called life.